I remember a time when my superior asked me how I improve myself and I told him that I check on my colleague’s work who was performing better to see where my focus should be. However, he told me I should avoid “unhealthy competition” as much as possible.
I was stunned since I did not think I was competing nor was “my method” unhealthy. But as I work now, I am thinking if I am subtly competing every time.
Unlike Amy Santiago, a character from the show Brooklyn 99, I do not directly challenge someone to a battle but rather challenge myself to match an individual’s skill or reach higher in attaining a goal.
It was how I grew up — I was compared with others, belittled to be “pushed” further. My parents used to say, “Others kids your age . . .” or “Could you not imitate the ways of . . .” or something of that effect. (Please do not do this to your children.)
I will end this really short blog made from a random thought bubble too long for a tweet with two questions:
- When do you consider “competition” healthy?
- How do you “push” a child to aim and dream higher without putting too much pressure on them?
I badly want to know.